Dying Flame

I haven't understood just exactly why my "previous budding interests" come back. They didn't want me before, why would they want me again? Ya know? Its confusing to say the least. Around twice a month, I get atleast 2 different guys (likely one is a repeat from the month before) and they tell me they want me back. You'd think he would get the hint that I'm not going back. Apparently I'm wrong. And all in all this gets so messed up. I don't know what I'm supposed to do. You can't expect to use me, toss me, and then just waltz right back into my life like nothing happened. Sad part is, if I were to take them back I'd either fall right back into the way things were and be this push-over like always, or I'd become someone they wouldn't like. Which could make for a sticky situation. You'll come to find out I complain A LOT about my non-existant love life. Everyone says its my fault I'm alone, "You can have anyone you want!" they say. Ok, right, since the ones I always seem to want aren't into the idea of making an effort to try for ANYTHING. I'm not pushy or anything, I'm go with the flow. I don't want to see someone everyday. I'd break it off myself out of annoyance of seeing someone so much. I just want communication. I think that's pretty key in all forms of a relationship, aside from trust and honesty, etc. Just let me know you're interested in me or I'll leave you alone. Its quite simple. Yet, I still get that lingering feeling from most guys I get involved with. They don't exactly want me, but yet they don't want anyone else to have me either. I can't win. =(